The Giver By Lois Lowery – A Discussion Guide for Parents and Kids


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The Giver is a dystopian novel set around the life of a young boy, Jonah, and his Community. In The Community everything is regulated – careers, family size, temperature, even emotions. At the age of 12, when all children are assigned to their life’s work, Jonah is given the job of The Giver. The Giver is the one person entrusted with all the memories of humanity. For decades all other citizens have been denied knowledge of the pain, fear, and joy people experienced before The Community was “perfected.” They are given only “the sameness.” The job of The Giver is both beautiful and torturous. It also gives Jonah an understanding that no one else in his Community could possibly have – an understanding that makes it impossible to go back to the content, secure life he knew before.

The Giver has been a staple in American middle school classrooms since it won The Newberry Award in 1994 and with good reason. Like many dystopian novels, The Giver shines a light on flawed aspects of our own culture. In fact, the parallels between Jonah’s Community and our way of living can be startling. Fortunately, our technology doesn’t control our lives to the same extent that it does for people in The Giver, but like that of The Community, our technology can be spectacularly numbing.

The Giver is a must for young readers, but many parents will want to couple this novel with discussion. There is also a movie version of the novel starring Jeff Bridges and Meryl Streep. Parent and kids will likely want to read and discuss the book before seeing the Hollywood version of this story.

LANGUAGE – No. It’s a perfect world, no need to curse.

VIOLENCE – The people in this novel live in near perfect harmony, but not with out eliminating some problems. There is so graphic violence, but there is at least one disturbing scene.

SEXUAL CONTENT– The “stirrings” of the adolescent citizens are controlled with medication. Some parents might want to discuss what is meant by “stirrings.”



1. Why do you think dystopian literature so popular?

2. Is there something appealing about living in a pleasant world with no pain, or does it sound too boring?

3. What do the people of The Community lose by having “the sameness?”

4. Do you think Jonah’s parent’s love him?

5. Why is what happens to Baby Gabe so disturbing and shocking?

6. Why would being The Giver be so hard? Would you rather to be a Giver with all that knowledge or a community member living in blissful ignorance?

7. Why is free will essential to being truly good, happy, or free?


“The worst part of holding the memories is not the pain. It’s the loneliness of it. Memories need to be shared.”

“We gained control of many things. But we had to let go of others.”

“I liked the feeling of love,’ [Jonas] confessed. He glanced nervously at the speaker on the wall, reassuring himself that no one was listening. ‘I wish we still had that,’ he whispered. ‘Of course,’ he added quickly, ‘I do understand that it wouldn’t work very well. And that it’s much better to be organized the way we are now. I can see that it was a dangerous way to live.”

“It’s the choosing that’s important, isn’t it?”

“I don’t know what you mean when you say ‘the whole world’ or ‘generations before him.’I thought there was only us. I thought there was only now.”


8 thoughts on “The Giver By Lois Lowery – A Discussion Guide for Parents and Kids

  1. I love it!!! The title of your blog, that is, and the fact that you wanted to start a blog about farming, but realized you didn’t know enough about farming. Priceless! It made me want to follow you, which I did. as for the book, My kids had to read it, but I never did.

    1. Thanks for stopping by, Candy. Come follow my on FB. It’s the farmiest thing I do – lots of photos of my chickens, ducks, and buffalo. My friend, who knows more about farming than me, realized that she’s not really into blogging. I think she has written two posts ever. But that’s okay. I have plenty to say for both of us. I’ll follow you now.

  2. This is great!! “The Giver” is likely on our list of reads for next year with my 6th grader. Do you think that is a good age? I haven’t read it myself.

    1. I do. That is the age that public school kids read it – not that that means much. I don’t want to give too much away, but there is one very disturbing part that could lead to a great pro-life discussion. You might just want to stay a chapter ahead of the kids. You can easily read the whole book in one or two evenings on your own. Also, the part about “the stirrings” might be awkward for some kids, but offers a great chance for you to have a discussion about sexuality and how to handle new feelings that come up at about this age. What else are y’all planning to read? I have homeschooled and taught middle school and high school English in public school. I’d be happy to give you the heads up on other books if I’ve read them.

      1. I haven’t thought much our book list, to be honest! I need to look through some ideas, though. When I do (hopefully in the next few days), I will get back in touch with you! Thanks so much!

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